Dear Sasha,
I have been with my new girlfriend for 3 months now, I really, really like her a lot however since we started dating she has put on about 15 pounds. I don’t want to tell her what to eat or try to change her — but I’m starting to lose my sexual interest in her — I have never been attracted to chunky women.

Sincerely,
Weight Watching Boyfriend

Dear Weight Watcher,
Wow. Did you just say “chunky”? And you’re almost single? Get ready to beat the ladies off with a stick because nothin’ says sexy like a dude who likes to disparage a few extra pounds. Should you choose to break up with your girlfriend, can you give me her number? That way I can call her, give her a high five and schedule an outing so we can find her a new man who isn’t afraid of a little cushion for the pushin’.

It’s been scientifically proven that people (yeah, buddy, that means dudes too) tend to gain weight when in a couple. Maybe it’s because you get lazy now that you’ve landed your love, maybe it’s because you’re up late drinking wine and staring into each other’s eyes, maybe it’s because food tastes better when you have someone to enjoy it with, but a major part of the mating ritual is putting on those nesting pounds.

You know what that means, don’t you? Chance are, there’s a little more of you to love these days too.
If you’re really into her and haven’t made the dire mistake of commented on her newfound thickness to her face yet, why not suggest you workout together since couples tend to lose weight together as well. Take hikes, go for bike rides, take her out to shoot hoops or play tennis, figure out a way to make it fun and bonding as a couple and you’ll both end up tighter in your relationship and abs.

Sasha

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