I suppose we do learn some things about love each time we experience it. In failure of a relationship we resolve never to make the same mistakes again. we get toughened to some extent and perhaps become a little wiser. But love itself is eternally young and always manifests some folly of youth. So, maybe it is better not to become too jaded by love’s suffering and dead ends, but rather to appreciate that emptiness is part of love’s heritage and therefore its very nature. It isn’t necessary to to make strong efforts to avoid past mistakes or to learn how to be clever about love.
— Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul