As a social scientist who’s been investigating the game of love for almost 30 years, Jennifer Kelton, CEO/Founder of Bad Online Dates launches The Boob Experiment to ask singles if “bigger boobs really do matter?” This boob obsession has contributed to Victoria’s Secret spending $12 million and investing almost an entire year planning their upcoming Annual Fashion Show in New York. With the newest tools of social media, and fan engagement, Kelton is excited to bring out some truths and to open up an honest dialogue and genuine conversation on all things regarding boob size on the Bad Online Dates Facebook page and Twitter #boobexperiment.

From Holly Madison insuring her boobs for $1 million to the upcoming Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show on Nov 29th, Bad Online Dates (http://badonlinedates.com) is launching an online dialog to create fiery water cooler discussions about whether bigger boobs really matter on Facebook and Twitter using #boobexperiment. Both single men and women are asked to share candid opinions to close the communications gap between the sexes on this hot topic. Women are also asked to join the conversation, What has your Push-Up Bra done for you today? As the Author of Don’t Use My Sweater as a Towel, Bad Online Dates CEO Jennifer Kelton has been studying dating behavior for decades as a social scientist and 21st Century Dating Expert. To encourage singles to laugh about bad dates and move forward, Bad Online Dates offers a compassionate community where singles can vent online.

Boobs can significantly impact a woman’s self-esteem, and the media promotes bigger boobs in TV, Print, Radio and all over the web. If someone is flat-chested, the pressure is high to stuff a bra or wear a push-up bra. While some guys say big boobs are must-haves on AskMen.com, it’s encouraging to hear that many men make boobs more important around peers. AskMen.com Contributor Andre Cross shared, “Most of the time men joke around more than anything. Inside, we know what we really want: a pair of nicely shaped and reasonably sized breasts.”

And what about the obsession with boob jobs? While most women will seek plastic surgeons for bigger boobs, some get breast reductions. After rumors that Jessica Simpson wanted breast reduction surgery before the wedding because her DDs make her look heavy, Jessica denied ever thinking about a breast reduction on Twitter. Now that Jessica is pregnant, she tweeted, “My belly is officially bigger than my boobs…Well, kinda. Ha.” With this obsession over bigger boobs, it’s a relief to hear AskMen.com Contributor Andre Cross support women in this personal decision whether to get a boob job by saying, “A woman should never get breast implants to please a man. She’d be doing it for all the wrong reasons. If she does want implants, I hope that she’d be getting them for herself and no one else.”

In the end, you can buy the best bra and be beautiful, and still run into a Bad Date Bear like Bad Date Betty did in two recent Bad Date TV Videos:Bad Date Betty and the Blinged Out Bear, and just released: Bad Date Betty and the Hawaiian Bear Internet Date. With the release of the comedy-drama movie, The Descendants today (Nov 16, 2011), George Clooney plays a dad in Hawaii who seems to have the perfect life. The reality is that The Descendants is all about insecurities for George Clooney and his two daughters who show that stuff happens in paradise. No bra will solve all problems, but it can boost confidence.

After traveling the world, Jennifer Kelton, CEO/Founder Bad Online Dates, observed, “It’s a cultural thing. In some parts of the world, women are topless, and there is no judgment.” Overall, it is perception versus reality that impacts many viewpoints. In the US, the perception is that bigger boobs matter, yet the reality is that boobs are usually not a deciding factor in a long-term relationship. While chemistry is a must-have for every relationship, bigger boobs appear to be optional. For a fun and all things informative interview with Jennifer Kelton, the CEO/Founder of Bad Online Dates about love, sex, dating, female tech entrepreneurship, and the ups and downs of the dating space and predictions for the future, please contact:

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Jennifer Kelton is an entrepreneur, author, social media innovator and dating advisor, who has been investigating the game of love for 30 years. Kelton is Founder and CEO of BadOnlineDates.com, Green Knights Entertainment, Bad Date TV, a new Internet dating game show, Dating in Disguise, and Author of Don’t Use My Sweater Like a Towel, a candid dating guide. Her work and book have been featured on CNN Living, The Washington Post, iPad News Tracker, TIME Travel, Seattle Weekly, ABC KGTV San Diego, KTVU FOX Oakland, Mashable and many other media. Fans can laugh, post bad dates and get dating advice on the Bad Online Dates Facebook Fan page Read More Here

By Alison Agosti

I’ve always wondered why women are labeled as the more vain of the sexes. Men have just as many vices: sports cars, leather jackets and hair plugs are somehow always overlooked. One of these male-centric vanity trends is the guy who wears sunglasses indoors. Ah, yes. The guy who is desperate to appear cool and unable to shake the obvious, frantic image he is actually presenting.

This isn’t so much a fashion statement as it is a personality type. The kind of guy that does the unnecessary sunglasses thing, either indoors or at night, isn’t so much telling the world about his love of shades; he’s explicitly saying that he wants to be seen and acknowledged without returning the favor. That exaggerated cockiness is so unattractive to me, and I think most women would agree.

It almost doesn’t matter the style of shades. Once they are on indoors, it’s immediately tacky. That club look is so not for me. But a personal pet peeve has always been the see-through sunglasses, where you can still make out most of the person’s eyes. It feels so J-Lo circa 1998 or worse; a middle-aged, mustachioed motorcycle cop.

Guys, unless you are Jack Nicholson, this is not a look you’re going to pull off. And there are really only a few exceptions to this rule: if you have a black eye or pink eye (gross), or you are hungover or if you have a migraine. Even then, you should be apologetic about it. Something like this: “Oh these? I’m so sorry! If I take them off my eyes will literally fall out of my head. It has nothing to do with my fear of human interaction, I swear! Please, tell me about your day while I listen to you intently.”

Because that’s what it is right? Covering your eyes when you’re not protecting yourself from the glare of the sun, is either to hide the fact that you are disinterested in your surroundings or to project the image of someone that is. I have no time for either. Luckily, I have never had to deal with this personally. I have a pretty good gauge for jerks, and wearing unnecessary sunglasses is jerk behavior.

My initial response is to say that indoor shades is an immediate dating deal breaker. But, in the spirit of Moldable May, let’s give the Risky Business character a chance to redeem himself. If this happens in the context of an early date, maybe the guy is just nervous and wants to project an image of confidence. Communication is always key. Try saying something like, “I’m trying to connect with you and it’s kind of tough through the glasses.” Honestly, if that doesn’t get them off, they may be permanently attached. Consequently, if you’re dealing with this behavior in a longer-term relationship, I give you full permission to just smack them off of his head.

Dear Sasha,
I have been with my new girlfriend for 3 months now, I really, really like her a lot however since we started dating she has put on about 15 pounds. I don’t want to tell her what to eat or try to change her — but I’m starting to lose my sexual interest in her — I have never been attracted to chunky women.

Sincerely,
Weight Watching Boyfriend

Dear Weight Watcher,
Wow. Did you just say “chunky”? And you’re almost single? Get ready to beat the ladies off with a stick because nothin’ says sexy like a dude who likes to disparage a few extra pounds. Should you choose to break up with your girlfriend, can you give me her number? That way I can call her, give her a high five and schedule an outing so we can find her a new man who isn’t afraid of a little cushion for the pushin’.

It’s been scientifically proven that people (yeah, buddy, that means dudes too) tend to gain weight when in a couple. Maybe it’s because you get lazy now that you’ve landed your love, maybe it’s because you’re up late drinking wine and staring into each other’s eyes, maybe it’s because food tastes better when you have someone to enjoy it with, but a major part of the mating ritual is putting on those nesting pounds.

You know what that means, don’t you? Chance are, there’s a little more of you to love these days too.
If you’re really into her and haven’t made the dire mistake of commented on her newfound thickness to her face yet, why not suggest you workout together since couples tend to lose weight together as well. Take hikes, go for bike rides, take her out to shoot hoops or play tennis, figure out a way to make it fun and bonding as a couple and you’ll both end up tighter in your relationship and abs.

Sasha

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By Alison Agosti

There are literally an infinite number of possibilities for self-expression through your hair. Dye it, shave it, spike it, let it grow wild and untamed. Men can grow beards, or a tragically trendy moustache. Basically, if you can imagine it, there is probably a product that can make it happen for you. However, in the world of body hair, eyebrows should be not open to creative interpretation.

Twice a month, I make the sad trek to my local beauty salon to pay a muscular Slavic woman to pour hot wax on my face and rip the excess hair out of my brows. It hurts worse than anything, and every time she does it, I wonder why I do this to myself. “You came in here with two caterpillars above your eyes and now you have eyebrows again!” She has said this to me several times, because she thinks it’s hilarious to make fun of me. And, she’s right. I really feel like it makes me look better.

I know that women are targeted and encouraged to beautify damn-near every part of their body (the fact that anal bleaching exists is the ultimate example); that the perfect woman must posses certain features, but there really are benefits to shaping your eyebrows! It draws attention to your eyes, lifting and enhancing features. Ultimately, it just looks better, cleaner and sexier.

Men, however, do not seem to have gotten the memo. I’m not asking for guys to do anything drastic, quite frankly, I would be happy if they would just keep the two from meeting in the middle. That’s right, the dreaded and unsightly unibrow is much more common than you’d think. Certainly not the thick, full unibrow; but I’ve had more than a few run-ins with the more subtle and island of light hairs in between the the two.

I’ve never thought this was a deal-breaker. Unattractive? Yes, absolutely. But in the spirit of Moldable May, I would encourage you to give the poor uni-guy a chance. Most likely, he has no idea, and I’ll take the guy who is a little clueless over a shameless preener any day.

So maybe you fall for one of these clueless types. Now comes the delicate art of introducing a man to tweezers. While I don’t think a unibrow makes someone undateable, it certainly cannot be allowed to stay. I suggest being straightforward, but polite. Don’t say, “You would be so much less disgusting if you let me tweeze your disgusting t-zone.” Mostly, because they won’t know what the t-zone is, and because it’s mean. Try something a little more tactful, like “Hey, I’m crazy about you already, but here’s something that would make you even better.” I don’t know a single guy who wouldn’t want to make himself more attractive to the girl he’s dating.

This might be a sign that I’m a bit of a sadist, but I kind of enjoy tweezing out those few in between hairs for them. There is no bigger cry baby in the world than a man getting hair removed. It’s a funny, sweet little thing the two of you can share and even if he won’t admit it, he’ll thank you for it.

* Has someone tried to change you, or have you tried to change someone? For the next few weeks we here at Badonlinedates.com will be talking, writing and posting about the ideas, motives, and thoughts that surround trying to “mold” aka change someone in a relationship. Is it possible, is it a good idea?

Join in and share your own “Moldable May” stories with us on Twitter with the hash tag #MoldableMay, and on the
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Dear Sasha,
I have a huge issue I have a very flat chest can we say A cup my boyfriend keeps wanting me to get a breast enlargement and said he will pay. I have never had a body and or breast issue up until now. Should I do it and what are the risks?

Sincerely, 
Bigger boobs?

Dear Boobs’ Boob,
Supposedly there are boob men and ass men, but your boyfriend sounds like both a boob man and an asshole. What a jerk! The only person who should ever decide if they want to alter their body is YOU and it’s never anyone else’s place to say, “Hey baby, you know what would make me love you way more? If you had a hotter rack. On me, of course.”

I can tell you from experience that plastic surgery is filled with risks, pain and, sometimes, death.

I have the opposite problem as you; I’ve always had very large breasts. From the time I was 15, I had back problems and neck problems, not to mention pounds of embarrassment from men ogling and catcalling me in the street. I desperately wanted to have a breast reduction but after a dear family friend died having the procedure done when her anesthesiologist forgot to monitor if she was breathing (she hadn’t been for ten minutes and spent three weeks in a coma before passing away), I was too fearful.

I waited over a decade following her death, miserable with the two elephants strapped to my chest, but finally had the surgery a few years ago. Even though it was painful, terrifying and extremely expensive, I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made. But I made it for myself.
You don’t need a breast enlargement, you need a boyfriend reduction. Ditch that loser and find a man who will love you the way you are.

Sasha

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