26 May 11

Thursday’s Thoughts From a Bartender: Dating a Bad Driver

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By Daniel Ponsky

Where is it written that the driver in the vehicle is the only one who has to pay attention to the road being driven? Nowhere and that’s just the way I like it. I mean let’s be real, I’m supposed to trust one person driving my life around a million other cars and not pay attention to what’s going on? Yeah, right, you wish. To be truthful though, I have driving issues.

Many years ago I had an accident that left me with a little bit of paranoid road rage. That’s where not only do the idiots on the road piss me off in real time, but I also anticipate them doing something stupid before they do it and then I scream and yell and curse them to hell for actually having done nothing. That’s just me so most of you out there don’t have to worry. The most you have to deal with is a “Whoa, whoa, whoa” or an unexpected “Watch it Johnny” from the average person every once in awhile who sits next to you. Right?

Oh hell to the no. Let’s face it, if you’re not in the driver’s seat in control driving, flying, boating, or whatever then most of us our living backseat. Eyes open scanning nine and three military style looking for the devil to show his face. I have been known to ask the stewardess on a plane to tell the pilot that the mountains looked to close and that we should raise our altitude. But that’s just me doing me. I’m crazy and I know it. There is nothing wrong with being attentive in a vehicle as long as you don’t A, grab the wheel, or B, scream your head off like a stark raving mad lunatic. Those little freak out stunts can kill. A vehicle is nothing to screw around in. If you are stuck as a passenger behind the wheel of a car driven by a mad man or crazy lady, I suggest you get out and take your act to a bus stop.

If you are dating someone who drives just horrible, like me, there is nothing wrong with telling that person they suck and that you prefer to drive. Remember to be nice and be sensitive about it. Believe me, there are those of us out there who are more than willing to flip for gas, drinks, dinner, or whatever. Relationships are hard enough to deal with when it comes to understanding each other as people but when you throw our outside physical skills or lack there of into the mix it can be a little much for someone to have to digest.

None of us are perfect. We all have things in life that we excel at and we all have things in life that we just plain suck at as well. Good people take the good with the bad. Bad people can’t deal with anything but the good. Knowing and respecting “the you” in you is important and it is a step closer to being able to really know and respect others.

  • What do you think?

About Jennifer Kelton

Jennifer KeltonI did not wake up one morning and say “hey I think I’d like a man use my sweater like a towel, write a candid dating book, become a dating expert, the CEO and founder of a social dating site and have three blogs.”

All of this has happened in a slow burn and here I am. The good, the bad, the mistakes, way too many tears shed to count, lots of wine and oh my goodness a huge learning curve that leaves me much of the time saying, “I’m sorry but this is all new to me.”
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