26 Jan 11

A Man’s POV: How it Makes Me Feel When… She’s Flirting With Other Men in Front of Me

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She’s (My Date) Blatantly Flirting With Other Men in Front of Me

By Patrick Curry

Now when you’re out and about on a date with a cute girl, I’m going to assume that you’re going to aim (or you damn well better if you plan to get anywhere with her) to put your best foot forward: to be funny, to really listen to what she has to say and really learn about her, to ask questions. In short, to really focus all your attention on her. I mean, how do you think she would feel if you were ogling at, salivating over, and cavorting with other women while on your date with her? I’m going to go out on a limb and say, not too fondly towards you.
But to turn the tables a little, this week’s male POV will look at what it feels like when a guy’s date is blatantly flirting with (i.e. playing footsy with and giving sex eyes to) another guy.

Since there are two males involved in this scenario (the guy on the “date” and the other guy who the date is flirting with), I think it would only be fair to give you glimpses into the psyches and philosophies of both male parties.

For the man who actually initiated the date, unless the date is going absolutely horrifically, to have your date blatantly flirt with another guy is going to be a major burn and make you really question your self-esteem, spurring inner monologues along the lines of: “Am I really lame and uninteresting to the point where women just bail on my date half way through?” and “Man, maybe I really should get a new deodorant scent?” It’s also going to, unless your incredibly desperate and have none of aforementioned self-esteem, completely make you lose all interest in your date and resort to even more and this time quite vulgar inner monologues about your date’s habits, looks, and afterworld destination.

Now for the guy(s) whose flirting with the date. I’d say that in ninety percent of situations, to intrude on another guy’s date (a guy who went to the trouble to initiate, plan and pay for the date) is a pretty low blow, especially when you consider the fact that you’re sabotaging someone on the same team. Although he may get some sort of ego erection from the situation, he should really respect the fact that it isn’t his date.

However, there are exceptions to the rule. For example, perhaps you’re a kind, happy-go-lucky guy out to dinner with some friends and you notice that the girl at the table next to you, who is quite attractive, is on a first date with a first rate insert your profanity of choice. I mean, a real ¬string of harsh vulgarities and you can tell that she’s really having a miserable time. In this case, if she starts flirting with you, then by all means, go for it. After all, all’s fair in love and war.

  • What do you think?

About Jennifer Kelton

Jennifer KeltonI did not wake up one morning and say “hey I think I’d like a man use my sweater like a towel, write a candid dating book, become a dating expert, the CEO and founder of a social dating site and have three blogs.”

All of this has happened in a slow burn and here I am. The good, the bad, the mistakes, way too many tears shed to count, lots of wine and oh my goodness a huge learning curve that leaves me much of the time saying, “I’m sorry but this is all new to me.”

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