23 Sep 10

Thursday’s Thoughts From a Bartender: The Drunk Girl Response – Is She an Easy Lay?

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By Jack Elliot

It’s all well and good to go out, have a few drinks, let loose, and have a great time. But, as you are probably well aware, there is such a thing as one (or two or three or twelve) too many- that point where your happy-go-lucky buzz turns into a hard-to-remember fuzz. We’ve all been “there” (with there most aptly referring to “college”) . But hopefully, by your early to mid-twenties you’ve been able to, for the most part, quench your desire to “pound,” “slake,” and “demolish,” liquor- and are instead able to just enjoy a couple drinks and bask in that happy-go-lucky, conversation flowing, buzz. But every now and then, you’ll still come across someone whose desire to pound, slake, and demolish still seems to remain, shall we say, insatiable. Although the male gender is chalk full of this type, for now let’s just focus on females.

You know who I’m talking about, she’s “that girl.” She can be seen at hotspots across the world and in a local bar near you tripping over herself, leaning her head down on the bar, stumbling down the stairs, hounding the busy bartenders for free drinks, taking constant pictures of herself, trying to unsuccessfully seduce the live band, and being all too friendly with the drunk guy(s) in the corner. So what are the typical responses (of both genders) to “that girl?” Do other women feel pity? Do men see her as an easy lay?

After various observations and conversations over the course of a couple busy weekends, the general response to the first question seems to be an all out “no.” It seems that women who come across “that girl” see her as an embarrassment to their gender, perceive her as lacking in intelligence (perhaps because of her drinking habits in “college“), and tend to look down on her as her sloppy antics- which now include uninhibited grinding on the dance floor, become progressively worse.

And when it comes to the second question, it is hoped that most credible and respectable men will not be attracted to “that girl” and realize just how awful and regrettable it will be to wake up to her the next morning as she runs to the toilet. Thankfully, there is a large percentage of men who do realize this and can join their female compatriots in scorning “that girl.” But unfortunately, there are still many, many men out there who, drunk or not drunk, see “that girl” as an easy lay and have no qualms when it comes to trying to court (a.k.a. grind with) her.

So is there a solution to this problem? Is there a way to make sure “that girl” doesn’t get into the bar, onto the dance floor, and sitting down on a bar stool near you as she throws limes at the bartenders as she tries to get a free vodka soda? Yes, there is a solution, and its called self control (a.k.a. maturity, dignity, etc.).

  • What do you think?

About Jennifer Kelton

Jennifer KeltonI did not wake up one morning and say “hey I think I’d like a man use my sweater like a towel, write a candid dating book, become a dating expert, the CEO and founder of a social dating site and have three blogs.”

All of this has happened in a slow burn and here I am. The good, the bad, the mistakes, way too many tears shed to count, lots of wine and oh my goodness a huge learning curve that leaves me much of the time saying, “I’m sorry but this is all new to me.”
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