Do Men Really Love Crazy Women?
Last weekend after a exhausting week I went to one of my local waterholes. I ended up meeting a guy and kissing him.
I can’t remember the last time that I kissed a guy right after meeting him at a bar.
It was an interesting moment…
I was having a hard time going in for the kissing kill, since I have been so stressed out by work and realized that when it comes to men I’ve pretty much shut down except for my “go to sex guy.”
Long story short – in a truly “crazy woman move.” I started crying as I stood there with him in the parking lot.
I had been on the verge of tears all day, but in that moment it was such a huge trigger for so many feelings…
And when we finally did kiss it made me realize just how “really shut down” I’ve become.
Still processing this… not so much for him, but for me.
I do hope he calls, however I’m thinking It was a big “crazy woman” freak-out for him.
A girl crying is not just “crazy” but SCARY!
I did explain a bit of what I’m going through. But till you have walked in another persons shoes that can be hard to grasp.
Based in that, this article from thefrisky.com resonated with me.
Enjoy!
5 Theories On Why Dudes Love Crazy Women
Today, Glamour blogger Shallon Lester brings to our attention a widespread problem plaguing our menfolk: guys seem to really dig crazy chicks. Yes Shallon, I have noticed this, too. But in the post, she gives only a few half-hearted explanations: “Personally, I think guys secretly like the drama. Maybe it makes them feel alive or brings some action to their otherwise dull lives. Or, perhaps it reminds them of the chaos of their own family life as a child (wow, how Dr. Phil am I today?) Or, they could just be weak guys who like being dominated and repressed.” [Glamour]
After the jump, five more theories on why guys seem to loooove crazy women.
1. Men love to be heroes. They love to “fix” things. It makes them feel needed, important, and feeds the male ego. Who makes a better damsel in distress than a poor, defenseless lunachic? Note to guys: a woman is not like a house. Fixer-uppers do not usually turn out to be a wise investment. If you need to fix something, there are plenty of us normal single girls out there who need some light bulbs changed.
2. If she’s crazy day to day, chances are she’s crazy in the sack. But men don’t really care about sex that much, do they? Wait ” I think they might.
3. He has mommy issues. If a guy had a dysfunctional mother (or primary family member) he may not actually be aware that his lady’s behavior is NOT normal. There’s no shame in going to therapy and working that stuff out.
4. Need to figure out your future career? Money troubles? Feeling anxious or depressed? Having a GF with problems much worse than your own is a wonderful distraction. Warning: she will only make your problems worse.
5. He is not ready for a real intimate and committed relationship, and we all pick the wrong kind of person when we’re not ready. As soon as he envisions a lifetime of cracked-out antics, chances are he’ll be on the road to Mrs. Rightville, ASAP.
OK, that’s what I have to offer to the mix. What are your theories on why guys are attracted to crazy girls? (And just to be fair, I think I’ll put together a post about why we love a**holes next.)
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I did not wake up one morning and say “hey I think I’d like a man use my sweater like a towel, write a candid dating book, become a dating expert, the CEO and founder of a social dating site and have three blogs.”
